Read on to find out how homeopathy helped Gretchen and her daughter, Kylie.
Kylie: The Six-And- A-Half Year Old with ADHD
Kylie is an extroverted child who craved stimulation. Transitions were tough for her and, consequently, for the family. She could be brilliant out in the world—kind, compassionate, thoughtful. But she saved her worst behavior for those closest to her. An outburst could occur at any time, but especially in the morning and at bedtime. Gretchen described her as “obstinate, intense, persistent, and challenging.” Kylie was highly demanding of her parents’ attention, to the detriment of her younger sibling. She talked incessantly. Showing off was her M.O. to attract attention however she could. Quite the dominant member of the family, Kylie’s sister was comparatively mild-mannered and accommodating. Simply put, she was a little girl with a big personality and a big sense of entitlement. When she didn’t get her way, in public or in private, she threw a tantrum on the floor, kicking and
screaming, whether at home or public. A “watch-me” kind of kid. Kylie would do most anything to keep all focus on her. The more over-stimulated she became, the more resistant and insistent to the point of calling her mom names. The family felt they were walking on eggshells to avoid and manage Kylie’s meltdowns. Kylie was candid during my interview with her. “If I don’t get what I want, I whine or cry or punch. Or I bite my mom or dad on the shoulder or my babysitter’s thumb. I don’t like my parents’ rules so I get back at them. Tell them I hate them.” (Kylie’s mom described this as preemptively striking back).. “I used to lie and steal in school. I don’t anymore. But I still get mad when I’m punished.
We gave Kylie one dose of Lachesis 200C made from the Bushmaster snake. The hallmarks of children needing this remedy are dominance, jealousy, revenge, and, most of all, a tendency to do anything and everything to get all the attention. Those needing homeopathic remedies prepared from animals exhibit tendencies of competitiveness, territoriality, violence, and dominance and aggression.
One Month Follow-Up
Gretchen: “Kylie’s language has become respectful and kind. She was making better choices. Not so much tit for tat. She had much less of a need to get back at people. Maybe it’s the stress of school starting, but she’s slipping a bit.” We repeated the remedy.
Gretchen: “She’s getting mad much less, feels better overall, and loves school. She’s quite empathetic and is learning to be a really good friend.” Kylie told us that she’s able to make much better choices. We gave another dose of the remedy to hold for the future.
Mom: “She’s been doing awesome. She can still get upset but the household is no longer on pins and needles. Her self-talk is positive. Overall she’s doing quite well in school. We didn’t need to give her the dose of the remedy we were holding.”
Gretchen: “Kylie had been doing really well until recently when her dad and I separated. She’s confused about living in two houses and her behavior is relapsing. “ We repeated the Lachesis 200C.
Mom: “Kylie’s been doing absolutely fabulously. Kind, super loving. She seems to be transitioning well to our separation. She loves learning to read. Kylie is much more cuddly with me.
We’ll continue to support Kylie with homeopathy and she is likely to need a
dose of Lachesis 1M at some point.
Gretchen: Kylie’s Forty-Year-Old Mom
We first treated Kylie’s mom, Gretchen, eight months ago. An ER nurse, she was thirty-nine at the time. Her main concern was recurrent Meniere’s disease, diagnosed at age 17. “At that time I had terribly disabling vertigo attacks once a month. I would feel extremely nauseous to the point of being incapacitated in bed. If I moved my head at all, I would experience dry heaves. The room would just spin. It all came on out of the blue. Valium and a diuretic didn’t really help. Six months after it began, I had surgery of the left ear. I could just wake up or be somewhere and, within half an hour, the room was spinning full on. I needed to lie down, but that didn’t end the attack. Any kind of
movement made it worse. Or sitting up. I couldn’t read. I was violently ill. Just wanted to die. It’s the worst thing I’ve ever been through. It would wear off in a day. I was okay for a year after the surgery. I experienced a vertigo episode after the surgery then not again for a decade. Then we had some family stress and I came down again with vertigo. I saw another homeopath, but the remedy didn’t help. I get a lot of fullness and pressure in my ear, face, eye sockets, and all over my head. Almost like a lightweight sandbag covering everything. It’s like wearing
ski goggles inside my head. And I’ve been getting headaches. A sensation of pressure all the way around my head.”
We asked Gretchen about her sensitivity. “I pick up a lot on people’s energy and nonverbal cues. My three-year-old asks me, ‘Mom, are you gonna cry now?’ I love to garden. It’s really therapeutic moving the dirt, planting seeds, seeing them grow, having food from it, being outside.”
It was clear which remedy Gretchen needed, but we wanted to confirm it by asking two questions: First if she had any problem with seasickness. “Yes, when we went to Hawaii, I felt really nauseous on the boat. The same happened as a child traveling on curvy, country roads. I’ve never liked roller coasters. I’m prone to vomiting with the motion sickness. Going on a cruise sounds terrible to me.” Second, we inquired whether Gretchen had a caretaker personality. “Definitely. Even growing up I helped a lot with my younger brother. I had an exaggerated sense of responsibility at an early age.”
We wondered if she had suffered from loss of sleep from taking care of others. “Yes, I still wake at two to three in the morning several times a week.” Cocculus indica, a strong, climbing shrub that grows in Asia, fit Gretchen’s
case very clearly. It is a great remedy for sensitive, worn out women (though it could be for caretaking men), who are exhausted from taking care of others. In the homeopathic literature this is called “night watching.” They typically suffer from motion sickness as well. We prescribed Cocculus 200C to be taken once. Those needing homeopathic plant remedies tend to be sensitive and, more often than not, enjoy being around plants.
Five Weeks Later
“The Meniere’s is gone again. No more fullness or pressure in my ear, face, or head. No headaches either for a few weeks. I’m sold on homeopathy. My hearing is normal again. Almost no ringing in my ears. My husband and I have decided to separate, but I feel strangely really okay. This is a huge crossroads. I’ll be taking care of him less. My sleep problems are better the past two weeks.
I took one more dose of the remedy a month ago when I felt kind of fragile and overwhelmed. We are about to separate. I felt 90% better before. Now it’s 80%.
Six and a Half Months
A little background nose has been increasing lately in my left ear. Otherwise, my health has been good. We’re six months into our separation. Overall I’m grateful to be moving on. I’m enjoying gardening.
Gentle Yet Powerful Healing
The art and science of homeopathy makes it possible for one single substance from the natural world to have such a
profound, lasting, whole-person effect. It is why we recommend, for many patients with a variety of conditions, to try homeopathy first. It is always possible to pursue another approach if homeopathy doesn’t work. But, often it is just a matter of finding the simillimum—that one best remedy out of over 4000 that is the perfect match!